Why are my hair stylists telling me his?...?

U need to learn to think critically...which means u need to "consider the source". I am delighted to see the first glimmerings of critical thinking in a human...when u say u r starting to think maybe they're just saying that so u will pay for relaxers...because, u r indeed starting to think. Most humans r so mind kontrolled they never question anything they r told; they just receive anything they r told like manna from heaven...which, most of the time, it is not. Yes, consider the source: people whose livelihoods depend on u buying their relaxers r going to say what to u? Now, think a little bit more and realise that no-one on here can answer u exactly, sight un-seen, about what your particular hair is...when even u cannot do that, because u haven't seen your real hair since u were 5. But, consider this: u r a unique blend of white and black genes, unlike anyone else in the world, and, your natural hair would be something beautiful and unique if u just let it grow out. Probably it will be pretty crazy to deal with for a long while, if u do...because, u will have two different things going on...or, maybe even crazier, u could shave it all off and let it grow out natural, but, that would probably freak everyone out far worse. The simplest path is just to continue what u have been doing because the stylist is depending on u for his income...and no-one will freak out if u change nothing. But, if u ever do get the courage to let it grow out, your hair will be something exciting and new that will surprise and delight u after it is all grown out and all natural...it will be beautiful!